When Da’Naia Jackson and Derrick Jaxn first met on the campus of Tuskegee College, it had been three weeks since she suffered a traumatic violation. Somebody acquainted to the then 19-year-old had sexually assaulted her. Fairly than heal, Da’Naia says she slid right into a romance with the now “relationship coach.”
“I went straight right into a relationship, regardless that it wasn’t like instantly we began courting, however I met him, and there was curiosity there. I went straight into that with out even acknowledging, coping with the rape, I pretended prefer it by no means even occurred and obtained myself right into a relationship unhealed.”
Whereas talking with Laterras Whitfield on his Expensive Future Wifey podcast, Da’Naia detailed her estranged marriage’s begin and looming finish. That is her first-ever and unique interview since Derrick first introduced their divorce two weeks earlier than Christmas 2022.
Derrick was charming and humorous, with a outstanding presence after they met in a shared class. His opening line to Da’Naia was, “Are you a mannequin?” In the meantime, Jackson sat there with “loopy braids that weren’t upkept” and “pimples throughout [her] face.”
Their friendship and romance unfolded like “a type of traditional fairytale” tales. She describes it because the “ugly duckling, sensible woman within the nook” falling for the charismatic, fashionable man.
However what got here later between the 2 was removed from a romance film. Actually, by the top of it, Da’Naia claims Derrick admitted he had intercourse with practically 100 ladies.
In an unique clip offered to The Shade Room, the estranged spouse defined how she found this info. This a part of Da’Naia’s dialog with host Laterras takes place partly two of the total interview, set to be launched tomorrow (Could 25).
“A part of the restoration course of once we have been in this system for infidelity nad all that’s discovery. In discovery, it’s like we’ve trickled out lots of info now it’s time to go to stage zero, floor zero, they name it,” Jackson mentioned. “So, he made an inventory of ladies, all the pieces that he might recollect, and there was practically a 100 ladies on there.”
Nevertheless, Da’Naia by no means decided if Derrick’s record included lifetime companions or if he slept with all these ladies throughout their boyfriend-girlfriend stage, engagement, and marriage.
“In my thoughts, to me, [dating since 19] is a lifetime. So I’m considering no less than since we now have met,” she mentioned.
Da’Naia Jackson Admits To Finding out The Our bodies And Sexual Acts Of Girls Derrick Cheated With
Da’Naia revealed Derrick’s alleged sexual companions greater than two years after she sat by his facet whereas he publicly admitted to dishonest.
“I wish to be clear I’m not speaking about simply casually kicking it, perhaps a lunch or one thing like that. I’m speaking about as severe as intercourse, sexual flirtation, and assembly up–these sort of issues,” Derrick Jaxn. “It’s necessary that I let you already know I don’t stand by these actions. I don’t wish to encourage anybody to do this. Secondly, I do know I can’t construct a platform preaching sure issues, preaching towards sure issues, after which in my actual life stay opposite to that.”
On the time, in March 2021, Da’Naia sat in supportive silence, however a number of days later, she spoke about her resolution to remain beside Derrick.
Her estranged husband’s preliminary video and her follow-up explanations made her a trending matter–from her “helmet of salvation” to her loyalty to a cheater.
Following Derrick’s divorce announcement, Da’Naia didn’t say a lot on her public platforms. Just a few weeks prior, she had defended him by “cursing” anybody who spoke towards her and Derrick’s title in “mockery, accusations, slanders, and lies.”
It wasn’t till March 2023 that Da’Naia broke her silence on the state of affairs, citing her sturdy religion as her rock through the pending divorce.
“When the person you like & have children with destroys your soul with reckless decision-making, you could CHOOSE be alone with God. When your coronary heart has been shattered & reshaped into one thing that doesn’t fairly really feel regular inside your chest, with psychological, emotional & soul ache that’s insufferable, there’s solely ONE MAN who can repair it & that’s the Holy Spirit,” Da’Naia wrote.
Partially one in every of her unique Expensive Future Wifey podcast interview, Da’Naia detailed a few of Derrick’s dishonest results on her.
Wiping tears, she admitted to understanding the our bodies of a number of ladies higher than her personal as a result of she studied them and their behaviors, together with Derrick’s sexual acts with these ladies.
All in all, Da’Naia says she turned a shell of herself and didn’t know who she was.
“I knew a number of different ladies’s our bodies higher than I knew my very own and I spent lots of time…I went in such a deep gap the place I used to be like finding out these ladies. I might go to their profiles and I might research their pages and what they put on. I knew after they had met up so I watched their movies of them having intercourse so I might attempt to imitate that and recreate that in our relationship in order that he might select me and need me and that could be a low level to be in.”
Jackson mentioned she “hates” that she obtained to that time.
The Jacksons Dated For 9 Years Earlier than Getting Married
As for his or her beginnings, Da’Naia says she and Derrick have been “in love” after “three days” of hanging out and being his tutor. She claims they have been smitten with one another, it felt proper for the 19-year-olds.
“Trying again on it, I really feel like there was lots of compliments on the bodily attributes versus extra of the psychological and emotional attributes that I had. However then once more, we have been in love after three days.”
In love or not, Da’Naia says they have been in a situationship for 9 years earlier than getting married. She says there was “dedication at instances,” however they have been “on and off once more” via and after school.
“Main as much as our marriage, we have been really off. We have been dwelling in North Carolina on the time, 2015 going into late 2016, we went our separate methods as a result of there different folks concerned and there had already been different folks concerned, even in school.”
She clarified that there have been different ladies on Derrick’s half. Nevertheless, she claimed she “set Derrick up” by making an attempt to make him jealous of one other man–who was in on her plan. She says his infidelities throughout their school years created resentment, and he or she wished him to really feel the identical harm. They didn’t unpack his dishonest or her revenge scheme till they have been married years later.
“I used to be coping with extreme heartbreak. The issues that I seen Derrick do with different ladies on the time, and I used to be actually hooked up to him, after which it’s important to suppose I used to be coming off of that rape trauma–that I by no means handled, that I by no means talked to anyone else about,” Da’Naia recalled.
Throughout these early years, Jackson says she first suspected his dishonest by the change of his contact, and her intestine feeling would push her to snoop. Jackson admitted that she would search and discover proof of his infidelity solely to finish up not confronting Derrick. As an alternative, selecting to let him console her based mostly on a lie she’d inform fairly than the reality about seeing his indiscretions.
When issues imploded, Da’Naia says she turned a keen participant in simply being one of many ladies on his roaster. Then, she obtained pregnant, and he proposed.
See what else Da’Naia mentioned in regards to the unfolding of their relationship:
On Tuesday (Could 23), Da’Naia shared a smiling photograph on her Instagram profile. Her caption mentioned, “Therapeutic seems good on me! Elevating by God’s Grace, thanks, Jesus.”